If a Person is Gay, Who Am I to Judge?

by gary-foote on July 29, 2013

judge-hammer1-court If you have been on the Internet at all today or tuned in to the news you’ve probably seen or heard this quote, “If a person is gay, and looks for the Lord and had goodwill, who am I to judge them?” – Pope Francis. News agencies, media outlets, and many others are chiming in on this statement with questions like: Is the pope going to allow gay marriage? Is the Catholic Church changing its anti-homosexual rules? Does this mean that we will have gay and married priests now? And the common statement I keep reading is, “This pope sure is changing things up!”

The topic of homosexuality has been on a lot of people’s minds lately as we have had recently proposed laws relating to it, an increase in movies and television shows promoting homosexuality, and discussions everywhere from around the dinner table, to classrooms, to offices. Why are we so passionate about this topic? You may be surprised to read this, but we are so passionate about this topic because God created us that way!

In the Book of Genesis we read, “God created mankind in his image; in the image of God he created them; male and femalehe created them” (Genesis 1:17). Being made in the image of God we are created with a desire to love, as God is love. It should be no surprise that we want to see all of God’s children experiencing the love that He created them for, regardless of whether they are homosexual or heterosexual.

The Catechism of the Catholic Church (which is a concise book of the authentic teachings of the Catholic Church) states, “They (homosexuals) must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition” (CCC # 2358). The Catholic Church has always, does now, and will always teach that BOTH homosexual and heterosexual people must be “accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity.” Although what Pope Francis said today is beautiful and true, it is nothing new.

The “problem” we are facing with homosexuality today in reality is not a homosexuality problem, but a chastity crisis that affects both homosexuals and heterosexuals. We’ve made the assumption that if any heterosexual couple is together that they must be engaging in sex to some degree and that’s okay. Most people assume that if you’re dating, then there are some “sexual benefits” that come with your relationship.  We’ve thrown chastity to the sidelines and a fight has risen in full force for equality for homosexual couples to be able to have the same right to “sexual benefits” as heterosexual couples. In reality, these very equal rights and benefits don’t even exist.

Unmarried heterosexual couples do not have the “right” to engage in any type of sexual activity. Married heterosexual couples do not have the “right” to engage in any type of sexual activity that includes any form of contraception (the pill, condom, etc.) because that goes against God’s original design for our sexuality to be at the same time both unitive (bringing two people together in the most intimate way to become one) and procreative (through their unity God can intervene and create a life out of this bond).

Love is much greater than sex. Yes, sex between a married couple can be an expression of their love for one-another, but love cannot be reduced only to sex. Think about all of the people who love you and whom you love. It would be pretty weird to say that all of those relationships required sex or they wouldn’t truly be love relationships. Sex is only one of many ways to express the love that we have for one another and it is only appropriate in marriage. Did you know that if a man or woman is not physically able to have sex (impotent) then he or she cannot get married in the Catholic Church (Code of Canon Law 1084)? Also, if a couple is married in the Catholic Church their marriage is not “consummated” or completed until after they have sex and can even be “annulled” (withdrawn) on the basis of not having sex (Code of Canon Law 1061). Just a couple more reasons of how sex belongs only to marriage in a very special and unique way.

Heterosexual and homosexuals alike are called to chastity. Married and unmarried persons are called to chastity. So the one thing that we are all supposed to have in common, which gives us equal treatment by God and supposedly one another, is the thing that we try to get rid of: chastity.

My friends, we are all in this together regardless of our sexual orientation. We are all designed for love greater than anything we can ever imagine because we are created in the very image of love: God. Don’t settle for a cheap lie of “equality” to make excuses to distort the beautiful gifts that God has given to us in our sexuality and chastity so that you can “do whatever you want” with “your body.” But rather, look at the truth of God for peace, freedom, community, and real love. Remember Jesus words, A thief comes only to steal and slaughter and destroy; I came so that they might have life and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10). Here’s to an abundant life!


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Jodi Lozao-Labastida July 29, 2013 at 6:45 pm

My Dearest Gary, your words are absolutely beautiful and gracious. I was very interested to read what you had to say in regards to the Popes’ statement today. Profound is the word that I am compelled to say in regards to your blog. Much love and many prayers are sent to you and your family as God watches over each of us.


Helen Leach July 30, 2013 at 9:58 am

thank you, Gary you have more wisdom beyond your age. This message has opened up even more in my heart to love unconditionally. God bless you (tears of love for you and your family)

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